Yeah that’s her, the fiancé of George Clooney, aka Sarah Larson. Quite the party animal, wouldn’t you say?
Look, George can have almost any woman he wants, maybe that’s the reason he chose this one. Seems like even he has to fight a little bit to keep Sarah Larson.
And I’m not talking about a first date. But what do you do when your girl, that you’ve been with for a while, cancels a short date. Nothing special, but just a moment you were supposed to be together. A moment you wouldn’t cancel, because you kinda like spending time with her.
But she cancels. Something work related is the cause.
The strange thing is that in the beginning this was never an excuse for her to cancel. Now it is.
Taning interest, I call this. There is one remedy: show declining interest yourself. It’s like playing with a wild cat. If you want to pet her, she pulls back. The day you don’t try is the day she comes asking for it.
Women are like that (while men are like dogs). It’s an old saying, but it’s true.
So what you should learn (what I’m learning to apply myself) is not too depend on ANY woman. When you’re 100% complete just by yourself, stepping back won’t hurt you.
The above just happened, so I will be stepping back. If she asks what’s wrong, I’ll say: nothing. Because to an outsider I’m overreacting. But she’ll know exactly why it is that I’m not contacting her anymore.
Then it’s up to her!
I’ve found a great insight on why women like to date older guys. Just have a look at this:
http://www.doubleagent.com/agent/dominika/video-blog/older-guys-are-so-sexy
By the way, S, featured in the relationships category, will get married soon, but still fell for an older guy in the meantime as well!
It isn’t easy to fight the urge to want to be near a certain woman. You know she’s close, only 20 ft away really, and you want to go over and say hi… have a talk… but you can’t. She knows you’re that close as well. She should come over.
Well, aren’t men supposed to be the pursuers?
Yeah.
But this time I use it as a test. Will she contact? If so, she has genuine interest. ‘Cause if I go over there, I will be glad on the short term, but I won’t learn a thing.
Don’t go for instant pleasure.
A real man knows how to delay gratification.
But it’s not easy, that’s why I’m really fighting the urge now. See, as said, she know’s I’m here. And women like to chase as well. They like to have what’s difficult to get.
Now what’s interesting as well is why is there an urge? Why do I want to go over there?
Because I seek her attention.
Real men don’t seek attention. They get it, they don’t seek it. Real men live in their own little world and need nobody else. And because of that, others are drawn to them, they want to break the code…
Should I go over there right now, I would get some attention. Great. However, if I wait and she comes to my desk, I not only get the attention, but I know she really wanted to come. That feeling is a lot more valuable than the first one.
But as with all in life, for you to get great feelings, work needs to be done. Pain needs to be felt.
I know I still have a lot of work on myself, ’cause in the end, I want to turn off the urge. I want to learn how. That’ll make things easier. But should I be able to do this, won’t I loose the feeling of gratification as well?
Time will tell.
He lives in his own world and doesn’t let any woman change that. She can join him if she wants, but whatever she does, the real man will not change course for her. Ever.
That alone is what draws her to hem.
I was talking to S this morning. You know, the girl that is about to get married but is in love with somebody at work here. She’s gorgeous as I said before and she knows very well to give words to her emotions. I value her a lot.
If this is the first thing you read about S. Please look in the categories on the right and start with S bottom up, so you don’t miss a thing.
Anyway, so I was talking to S and asked her what it was exactly that attracted her to the object of her affection.
The guy I’m talking about is not tall, and not very muscled. He isn’t skinny either, has grey hair (on head and chest) and has some fat. Nothing blubby, but just enough to cover his bones so you don’t see them.
She adores that. She loves his manly body.
Having too much muscles doesn’t make her horny, but the body I described does. And believe me, if you would see her, you would fall for her.
It’s simply nice to know that a woman values these qualities; Mr lover doesn’t fitness, doesn’t use weights… he simply watches what he eats and joges. That’s all that’s necessary to make S horny.
Nice to know. Really.
Heidi Montag is really hot. I’ve been scanning The Hills since the start. I close my eyes for all the girly chit-chat, but the series has something to offer to us men. If you are able to read between the lines, you can feel the social dynamics that is going on between Heidi and all of her Boyfriends. Funny.
Filming of the upcoming Season 4 has started by the way. More pictures here.
You fall for it.
Given that you like what came close of course. Have a great date with a woman, and then withdraw. She won’t stop thinking about you.
And this works both ways by the way. If a woman you like shifts her habits and contacts you less, you fall more for her.
Think about it. Use it to your advantage, and don’t fall in the trap, don’t run after her when this happens.
There’s a time in every relationship with women where it happens. I start to get more needy of their attention. See, if when I’m with them I have a great time, I’m getting conditionned to want to spend more time with them.
Kinda normal, it’s like that with every drugs. If something gives you a good feeling, you want more of it.
But with women, therein lies the danger. If they sense that they have a grip on you, their interest level drops. So I want to train myself not to be in this situation anymore.
However, this isn’t easy at all. When I’m with a woman and I play the real man, the challenge etc. everything goes well. But if at some point she cancels something, I have a very hard time not to up the contact rate I use. While doing that will give me the exact opposite than what I want.
When she cancels something, you should always withdraw, so she senses she get’s less of you when she does that. So she senses she has to make up for it.
Problem is, things like this can make me mad. Even when a (female) friend cancels something, I get really mad (in myself, I don’t show this of course). I think it is very disrespecting, and I really don’t care what the excuse is really. I’m not something you can have fun with when you see fit, when it goes according your schedule. I’m someone you have to deserve to hang out with.
So this time, I will withdraw. My attention needs to be deserved, it is not a given fact. You need to earn it.
Nah.
Curious how long I will hold this out 
And they do it in ways you cannot even begin to imagine. Love is a constant power play. I wish it wasn’t. But it is.
However, having said that, women who like you, help you. They test you less. It is when their so called interest level is declining that they test you the most. To see if you’re worthy of them.
Let me give you some examples.
I was having a conversation with a girl not so long ago that said that one night she called her boyfriend. He always picks up right away, but didn’t that night. It made her wonder.
She tried 5 more times.
When the boyfriend came home, it became clear that he forgot his phone. When he saw she called her 5 times he said: ooo, how cute/nice, you called me 5 times, that so sweet.
And there he lost it. While she called him 5 times her interest level was going through the roof, but his unmanly action afterwards made it go down.
Now what does this have to do with testing. Well, this is the most subconscious way that she tests you. She doesn’t even know it, but when she calls you and you pick up your phone every time, she knows you are dying to talk to her.
Would a bad boy pick the phone up every time? No.
They constantly test the power they have over you. They try to decide for you, try to ask you things and every know and then, they hope you say no.
Another test almost every woman uses is when you are in a relationship for a while and you ask: can you come over next saturday?
“Well, I had something planned with a friend of mine, but I’ll see and let you know”. Bam. A nice guy would wait and keep his own schedule open, because he’s dying to spend time with her.
Well, even if you are dying, you have to say: “ok let me know before tomorrow 12 pm”. If she calls you at 1Pm say: “sorry Babe, but I’ve made plans on my own”. If you do so, you’ve regained power and next time you ask her, she will say yes right away.
Only if she loves you enough of course, but we’d rather find this out sooner than later, no?
Most men have forgotten to be a real man. Most men are nice guys. If you found this website, chances are, you are too.
You have learned through movies etc to put women on a pedestal. You seek their attention and their approval.
It isn’t supposed to be this way. Women don’t like it when you are needy.
And yet, for some of us (and I speak for myself as well) it is what we do automatically. Me too, when I really start to like a girl, I want to be around her as long as I can. So when I would be for instance sitting with her in a car while waiting for her or me to get out. I would want that moment to last forever. So I wouldn’t be the first to leave. Yet I should be.
Or as David Deangelo says in one of his articles on the right, I would let a woman lead the way. While shopping with her, but in general as well. When I’m in love, this is how I want to behave. But I don’t anymore.
It destroys relationships and makes her interest level drop faster than an airplane that has lost both of its engines and wings.
They want a man, a real man. One that leads, one that isn’t afraid to loose her! One that doesn’t need her approval, one that knows what he’s doing and that is secure.
And if you’re not like that, fake it. And you will see results that will really open your eyes.
And women notice these things, even in tiny actions you do. For instance, a couple of months ago I was in a restaurant with S and it was time to ask for the bill. It took me 1 second to get the attention of the waitress, and I didn’t need to raise my arm for it.
“that’s hot”, she said.
I asked her why and she quickly replied that when she sat there with her fiancé, it took him a lot more time to do the same action.
You see, women notice these small things. So you better get them right and behave like a man.
A real man walks into the restaurant first, he picks the table, he is the one ordering the wine etc. Be that man.
A real man doesn’t ask/say: do you like me? Did you have a fun time? Are you still in love with me? Can we go out again? Can we have sex? Where do you want to sit? Is it OK to take you to…? Do you like my hair?
A real man says: Let’s sit here, I want to take you to…
See the difference? A real man knows what he wants, and IF the woman likes him, she’s allowed to follow. That’s what keeps her in love.
And hey, I’m not trying to reverse emancipation, it isn’t about that. It’s about being the leader she wants you to be.
I’m sure you’ve lost a girlfriend or two (or more) to this kind of guy. Maybe even to a real bad boy. ’Cause a bad boy has these qualities as well. He has a lot of negative ones added, but these here on top, he has too.
Be a real man.
I will give more examples in the articles to come.
Really.
See, I’ve been running manadvice.com since 2002. And know him since. But yesterday, after restarting this blog and installing wordpress, I was forced to read some of his articles again.
Man, is he right. See, I hadn’t read them since 2003 or so and have learned so much on my own. I’m still gathering intel for my own book, that I’ll write some day. But Deangelo has is. And you don’t even have to buy his book in order to grasp some of the most important facts about dating and women. Just have a look on the top right side of every page of the site and you’ll find some of his best articles.
Today, I’ll write something of my own, but you will see a lot of resemblance with David Deangelo.
S is a special girl. She’s in her late twenties, gorgeous, blond, well formed (you get the picture, right?)… easy on the eye.
Not only that, she’s fun to be around, a giver, kind and so on. To me, she’s my best female friend. As you will learn, I’m into coaching guys who have problems in relationships. S. knows how to tell how she feels (no womanese, no doublespeak) so I learn a lot from her. The secrets I know of her can destroy her current relationship (with a marriage planned in 2008).
S has a relationship with some sort of nice guy, her husband to be since a couple of months, but she’s also in love with another man.
Here is a quick sketch of the two men:
Fiancé: a kind man. Not too tall, skinny, good looking head but no muscles at all. Nice to her, very nice, ambitious and rich. Loves to stay at home. 30.
The Other man: I will call him J. from now on: very funny good looking man. A real man. not too tall (same height as fiancé), good looking face, in his early forties. Married and has a kid. He is confident in one way, but very insecure towards her actions. If S doesn’t give him enough attention or doesn’t notice he has new clothes, he complains to her. I’ve yet to find a girl who doesn’t fancy him.
Now, put all of this info in a blender and you get a great mix. A mix I will continue to write about!
A Secret Women Know But Men Don’t
By David DeAngelo
I’d like to tell you a story…
It’s a story that you might find strangely
familiar. Don’t be alarmed.
Once upon a time, there was a man who was very
attracted to a particular woman.
At first, she was just another attractive
woman… but the more he got to know her, the
more he began to feel attracted to her… and
the more time he spent with her, the more that
attraction grew into a deep emotional
attachment and affection for her.
But there was one problem.
As his emotional attachment grew stronger and
stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.
Why?
Because he couldn’t tell whether or not she
felt the same way towards him.
Sometimes she would say things like “You are
so important to me” and “I’m glad that you’re in
my life”… but nothing ever progressed past the
“friendship” stage.
There was an occasional hug, an occasional
kiss on the cheek from her… and once she even
held his hand for a long time while he talked
about an emotional issue.
But something was wrong with the picture.
She just wasn’t acting like a woman that was
“falling in love”. She was acting like a friend.
The insecurity that he felt became a spiral
that amplified itself… and the more insecure he
became, the more afraid he grew of “screwing
things up” by kissing her or asking her to be
his girlfriend.
Plus, the more insecure he became, the less
time she seemed to want to spend with him.
After spending many days and nights obsessing
over this girl, the man finally arrived at the
conclusion that if she only knew how HE FELT,
that she would feel the same way.
So he made a bold move.
He TOLD HER how he was felt.
He confessed that he was in love, and that he
would do anything to be with her.
She looked at him with compassion in her eyes
and said “Thank you… I really mean that… but
I don’t want to mess up our friendship… you’re
too important to me…”.
This only confused the man more.
He didn’t know how to take it…
Did it mean that she really loved him too, but
that she was afraid of something?
Did it mean that she wasn’t ready for a long-
term relationship?
Did it mean that she didn’t love him, but that
she was trying to give him a hint?
Did it mean that he hadn’t tried hard enough?
Did it mean that he needed to put everything on
the line and REALLY let her know how he felt?
He finally decided that he couldn’t go on like
this anymore… he had to be with her.
He had to make sure that she knew just how much
he wanted to be with her… so he took a big step,
bought her a symbolic gift, and wrote her a long,
long letter… again confessing his feelings.
And then the unthinkable happened.
She didn’t reply.
He called her three times a day for almost a
week before reaching her.
She made an excuse about being very busy, and
said “I’ll try to give you a call soon, I have
to go”… and hung up…
…but he never got a call back.
Over the following months, the man tried
desperately to understand what went wrong… and
what happened.
THE END
OK, I’m back.
Now, wasn’t that a sweet story?
Heart warming, huh?
I know, I should keep my day job, and not take
up writing romance novels…
Now, let’s talk about that story.
That story is basically a MYTH.
And I’m not talking about FICTION here.
I’m talking about a story that rings true for
a great majority of men. A story that is timeless.
A story that resonates at a deep level because you
can IDENTIFY with it.
And why does this particular story resonate for
most men?
Because we’ve all been there in one way or
another… at one time or another… and many of
us have been there OFTEN in our lives.
Another thing that gives this particular story
a lot of power is the powerful negative emotions
that it stirs… as a result of the powerful
negative experiences that it reminds us of…
Stories and situations like this one really
FASCINATE me.
They fascinate me because I see them as an
opportunity to UNDERSTAND and SOLVE the puzzles
that they represent.
In this particular situation I think there is
a solution.
And it lies in understanding a secret that
women know but MEN DON’T.
And that secret comes down to the reality that
if a woman isn’t ATTRACTED to a man, all of his
attempts to confess his love, convince her to
like him, and court her BACKFIRE.
In other words, they not only DON’T WORK,
they actually make things WORSE.
In other words, the very things that a man does
to try to make a woman LIKE HIM make her NOT
like him. They make her run.
All those great intentions and emotional
dedication actual cause the man feeling them to
do things that make her go away.
It sucks.
And I hope that by explaining the process of
how this happens to you I’ll help you avoid this
painful situation in your own future…
THE “INSTANT EWWW”
I’m always fascinated by the idea that we
humans don’t always understand the message that
we’re communicating to others…
So often we think that because we WANT to
communicate a message that others are going to
NATURALLY understand what we’re trying to say.
Have you ever seen a guy in a foreign car
that has wheels on it that cost more than the
car itself… with his stereo blasting… and
a muffler that somehow AMPLIFIES the raw sound
of the 4-cylinder motor…?
Have you ever thought to yourself “I don’t
think that car is communicating the message to
women that he thinks it is”…?
Yea, I have too.
Well here’s the deal:
If you do something to “let a woman know how
you feel”… but she isn’t ATTRACTED to you, then
it’s going to backfire.
It’s going to trigger a feeling that like to
call the “Instant Ewww”.
The Instant Ewww is just as powerful as the
physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.
Once a woman feels it, YOU’RE DONE.
It’s over.
It’s like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into
the coffin.
Once a woman feels the Instant Ewww, she will
start behaving differently.
In short, she’ll disappear.
So where did I get the concept of the “Instant
Ewww”?
I got it from WOMEN.
I have actually heard SEVERAL women use the
word “Ewww” when describing how they felt about
a guy that was “confessing his love”… of course,
these were guys that weren’t loved in return.
So what causes the Instant Ewww?
And why would a woman feel it towards a man who
was trying to be nice… a guy who was giving her
a gift or telling her how he feels?
Because if you think about it from HER
perspective, you’ll realize that the moment a
you do something to “confess”, you have created a
TURNING POINT in the relationship.
Up until that point, you were harmless.
I mean, women always know how men feel.
She already knew you wanted her.
She knew it from the beginning.
But now that you’ve started pursuing her and
talking about how you feel, you’ve created a
NEGATIVE TENSION that is VERY uncomfortable.
You’ve triggered an emotion that is repulsive
to women. And it does repel them.
In summary…
You can’t “make a woman like you” or “change
how she feels about you” by doing nice things for
her…
Doing “nice” things for a woman who isn’t
attracted to you HURTS you. It backfires. Worse,
it creates the “Instant Ewww” feeling that makes
it so she’ll NEVER like you.
Men make this mistake over and over again in
life because they’re doing what MAKES SENSE to
them. They’re doing it because they don’t have
an understanding of ATTRACTION.
I mean, If you have a friend, and you like
them, and you want to make them like you more…
and you do some nice thing for them, they will
probably like you more.
On the other hand…
If you have a woman that you “like” in a romantic
way, and she doesn’t “feel it” for you, and you
do something nice for her because you want HER to
like you more, it will BACKFIRE… and she will
not only NOT like you more, she will most likely
distance herself from you.
Guys think that they need to communicate when
they like a woman… as if that’s part of the
necessary process of getting a girl.
In their minds, it goes like this:
Like her>Tell her you like her>She likes you
Well remember… if you follow this pattern
yourself with women who aren’t ATTRACTED to you,
then it’s going to BACKFIRE.
If she’s not into you, then it goes like THIS:
She thinks of you as a friend>You tell her you
like her>She gets the “Instant Ewwws” and never
wants to be around you again…
THE ANSWER
There are really TWO answers to this problem.
The first answer is what to do if you’re in a
situation where you like a particular girl, but
you don’t know if she likes you back.
DON’T GET HEAVY WITH HER.
Don’t buy her a big gift and write a love
letter…
Don’t send her ten dozen roses to her work
with a not that says “From your secret admirer”.
Don’t call her three times a day.
And DON’T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for her.
If you want to know how she feels about you,
KISS HER (and use “The Kiss Test” that you
learned on my website and in my book).
As a rule of thumb, don’t get heavier than
HER. Use SIGNALS from her to find out how she
feels… and if you don’t know how to read and
create those signals, then LEARN.
Asking a woman if she’s interested in your
in a romantic way, or if you are “her type” will
actually DESTROY the chances that she’ll like
you.
Really.
The SECOND answer is to not get into this
particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid
it entirely.
And how does one do that?
One does that by creating ATTRACTION from
the beginning.
One does that by understanding the dynamics
of how and why women have the physical and
emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.
One does that by knowing what you’re doing
FROM THE BEGINNING.
And what’s the best way to learn THAT
skill?
I thought you’d never ask…
The very best way to learn how to make women
feel ATTRACTION for you is to get yourself a
copy of my eBook, Double Your Dating.
I’ve spent several years now studying the
ways that men who are “naturals” communicate
using their words, voice tone, and body language
that makes them MAGNETIC to women.
And I’ll tell you… it’s not magic.
You don’t have to be rich, handsome, or young.
And you don’t have to be LUCKY.
What you DO have to do is LEARN.
It’s a skill, and I honestly believe that ANY
man can learn it if he wants.
But you’re not likely to figure it out by
“trial and error”. Many of the keys to making
women feel ATTRACTION aren’t “obvious” at all.
In fact, many of them make no sense… and
they’re the LAST thing you’d do in a particular
situation if you didn’t know the SECRETS.
I’m telling you, this book will show you
the way. I guarantee that this program will
INSTANTLY change how you behave around women.
And it will start getting you results
IMMEDIATELY.
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A Secret Women Know But Men Don’t
By David DeAngelo
I’d like to tell you a story…
It’s a story that you might find strangely
familiar. Don’t be alarmed.
Once upon a time, there was a man who was very
attracted to a particular woman.
At first, she was just another attractive
woman… but the more he got to know her, the
more he began to feel attracted to her… and
the more time he spent with her, the more that
attraction grew into a deep emotional
attachment and affection for her.
But there was one problem.
As his emotional attachment grew stronger and
stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.
Why?
Because he couldn’t tell whether or not she
felt the same way towards him.
Sometimes she would say things like “You are
so important to me” and “I’m glad that you’re in
my life”… but nothing ever progressed past the
“friendship” stage.
There was an occasional hug, an occasional
kiss on the cheek from her… and once she even
held his hand for a long time while he talked
about an emotional issue.
But something was wrong with the picture.
She just wasn’t acting like a woman that was
“falling in love”. She was acting like a friend.
The insecurity that he felt became a spiral
that amplified itself… and the more insecure he
became, the more afraid he grew of “screwing
things up” by kissing her or asking her to be
his girlfriend.
Plus, the more insecure he became, the less
time she seemed to want to spend with him.
After spending many days and nights obsessing
over this girl, the man finally arrived at the
conclusion that if she only knew how HE FELT,
that she would feel the same way.
So he made a bold move.
He TOLD HER how he was felt.
He confessed that he was in love, and that he
would do anything to be with her.
She looked at him with compassion in her eyes
and said “Thank you… I really mean that… but
I don’t want to mess up our friendship… you’re
too important to me…”.
This only confused the man more.
He didn’t know how to take it…
Did it mean that she really loved him too, but
that she was afraid of something?
Did it mean that she wasn’t ready for a long-
term relationship?
Did it mean that she didn’t love him, but that
she was trying to give him a hint?
Did it mean that he hadn’t tried hard enough?
Did it mean that he needed to put everything on
the line and REALLY let her know how he felt?
He finally decided that he couldn’t go on like
this anymore… he had to be with her.
He had to make sure that she knew just how much
he wanted to be with her… so he took a big step,
bought her a symbolic gift, and wrote her a long,
long letter… again confessing his feelings.
And then the unthinkable happened.
She didn’t reply.
He called her three times a day for almost a
week before reaching her.
She made an excuse about being very busy, and
said “I’ll try to give you a call soon, I have
to go”… and hung up…
…but he never got a call back.
Over the following months, the man tried
desperately to understand what went wrong… and
what happened.
THE END
OK, I’m back.
Now, wasn’t that a sweet story?
Heart warming, huh?
I know, I should keep my day job, and not take
up writing romance novels…
Now, let’s talk about that story.
That story is basically a MYTH.
And I’m not talking about FICTION here.
I’m talking about a story that rings true for
a great majority of men. A story that is timeless.
A story that resonates at a deep level because you
can IDENTIFY with it.
And why does this particular story resonate for
most men?
Because we’ve all been there in one way or
another… at one time or another… and many of
us have been there OFTEN in our lives.
Another thing that gives this particular story
a lot of power is the powerful negative emotions
that it stirs… as a result of the powerful
negative experiences that it reminds us of…
Stories and situations like this one really
FASCINATE me.
They fascinate me because I see them as an
opportunity to UNDERSTAND and SOLVE the puzzles
that they represent.
In this particular situation I think there is
a solution.
And it lies in understanding a secret that
women know but MEN DON’T.
And that secret comes down to the reality that
if a woman isn’t ATTRACTED to a man, all of his
attempts to confess his love, convince her to
like him, and court her BACKFIRE.
In other words, they not only DON’T WORK,
they actually make things WORSE.
In other words, the very things that a man does
to try to make a woman LIKE HIM make her NOT
like him. They make her run.
All those great intentions and emotional
dedication actual cause the man feeling them to
do things that make her go away.
It sucks.
And I hope that by explaining the process of
how this happens to you I’ll help you avoid this
painful situation in your own future…
THE “INSTANT EWWW”
I’m always fascinated by the idea that we
humans don’t always understand the message that
we’re communicating to others…
So often we think that because we WANT to
communicate a message that others are going to
NATURALLY understand what we’re trying to say.
Have you ever seen a guy in a foreign car
that has wheels on it that cost more than the
car itself… with his stereo blasting… and
a muffler that somehow AMPLIFIES the raw sound
of the 4-cylinder motor…?
Have you ever thought to yourself “I don’t
think that car is communicating the message to
women that he thinks it is”…?
Yea, I have too.
Well here’s the deal:
If you do something to “let a woman know how
you feel”… but she isn’t ATTRACTED to you, then
it’s going to backfire.
It’s going to trigger a feeling that like to
call the “Instant Ewww”.
The Instant Ewww is just as powerful as the
physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.
Once a woman feels it, YOU’RE DONE.
It’s over.
It’s like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into
the coffin.
Once a woman feels the Instant Ewww, she will
start behaving differently.
In short, she’ll disappear.
So where did I get the concept of the “Instant
Ewww”?
I got it from WOMEN.
I have actually heard SEVERAL women use the
word “Ewww” when describing how they felt about
a guy that was “confessing his love”… of course,
these were guys that weren’t loved in return.
So what causes the Instant Ewww?
And why would a woman feel it towards a man who
was trying to be nice… a guy who was giving her
a gift or telling her how he feels?
Because if you think about it from HER
perspective, you’ll realize that the moment a
you do something to “confess”, you have created a
TURNING POINT in the relationship.
Up until that point, you were harmless.
I mean, women always know how men feel.
She already knew you wanted her.
She knew it from the beginning.
But now that you’ve started pursuing her and
talking about how you feel, you’ve created a
NEGATIVE TENSION that is VERY uncomfortable.
You’ve triggered an emotion that is repulsive
to women. And it does repel them.
In summary…
You can’t “make a woman like you” or “change
how she feels about you” by doing nice things for
her…
Doing “nice” things for a woman who isn’t
attracted to you HURTS you. It backfires. Worse,
it creates the “Instant Ewww” feeling that makes
it so she’ll NEVER like you.
Men make this mistake over and over again in
life because they’re doing what MAKES SENSE to
them. They’re doing it because they don’t have
an understanding of ATTRACTION.
I mean, If you have a friend, and you like
them, and you want to make them like you more…
and you do some nice thing for them, they will
probably like you more.
On the other hand…
If you have a woman that you “like” in a romantic
way, and she doesn’t “feel it” for you, and you
do something nice for her because you want HER to
like you more, it will BACKFIRE… and she will
not only NOT like you more, she will most likely
distance herself from you.
Guys think that they need to communicate when
they like a woman… as if that’s part of the
necessary process of getting a girl.
In their minds, it goes like this:
Like her>Tell her you like her>She likes you
Well remember… if you follow this pattern
yourself with women who aren’t ATTRACTED to you,
then it’s going to BACKFIRE.
If she’s not into you, then it goes like THIS:
She thinks of you as a friend>You tell her you
like her>She gets the “Instant Ewwws” and never
wants to be around you again…
THE ANSWER
There are really TWO answers to this problem.
The first answer is what to do if you’re in a
situation where you like a particular girl, but
you don’t know if she likes you back.
DON’T GET HEAVY WITH HER.
Don’t buy her a big gift and write a love
letter…
Don’t send her ten dozen roses to her work
with a not that says “From your secret admirer”.
Don’t call her three times a day.
And DON’T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for her.
If you want to know how she feels about you,
KISS HER (and use “The Kiss Test” that you
learned on my website and in my book).
As a rule of thumb, don’t get heavier than
HER. Use SIGNALS from her to find out how she
feels… and if you don’t know how to read and
create those signals, then LEARN.
Asking a woman if she’s interested in your
in a romantic way, or if you are “her type” will
actually DESTROY the chances that she’ll like
you.
Really.
The SECOND answer is to not get into this
particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid
it entirely.
And how does one do that?
One does that by creating ATTRACTION from
the beginning.
One does that by understanding the dynamics
of how and why women have the physical and
emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.
One does that by knowing what you’re doing
FROM THE BEGINNING.
And what’s the best way to learn THAT
skill?
I thought you’d never ask…
The very best way to learn how to make women
feel ATTRACTION for you is to get yourself a
copy of my eBook, Double Your Dating.
I’ve spent several years now studying the
ways that men who are “naturals” communicate
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And I’ll tell you… it’s not magic.
You don’t have to be rich, handsome, or young.
And you don’t have to be LUCKY.
What you DO have to do is LEARN.
It’s a skill, and I honestly believe that ANY
man can learn it if he wants.
But you’re not likely to figure it out by
“trial and error”. Many of the keys to making
women feel ATTRACTION aren’t “obvious” at all.
In fact, many of them make no sense… and
they’re the LAST thing you’d do in a particular
situation if you didn’t know the SECRETS.
I’m telling you, this book will show you
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Jack has bad luck on E!’s Paradise City. His ‘girl’ Jenner is leaving Vegas, to get back together with the boyfriend.
Understandable, if you see what kind of begging/attention seeking guy jack is. “I’m interested to know what others think of me. What do you think of me, Jenner?”. “Would you marry me, so my dog always has your company”…
Come on guy! You’re the reason this website has to exist. She loves/d your looks, but what should she do know? Her interest in you just plumeted because you are too needy.
Rick on the other hand, you know, the broke rocker that has a 
playboy bunny chasing him, keeps playing it cool. April, the bunny, actually had to ask him: “but do you even like me”. Rick didn’t gave a response other than: sure, you know you’re beautiful and fun to hang out with.
“But where’s this going Rick?”
> “We’ll see”.
Gotta love it. Now we know how to get and keep a playboy bunny!
Since a couple of weeks, there’s a new show on E! here in Europe. Paradise City. The show’s about beautiful people in Vegas. Sort of a laguna beach for people in their 20s.
The two people I want to talk about are Rick and April, seen in the pictures. April is a playboy bunny, Rick is a rockstar with a small heart. Rick’s a weird guy really. Actually he’s a nice guy, but he never ever shows it to the ladies he hangs around with.
What he does with April, a classic beauty, is stunning. He’s what Doc Love would call a 3%er. He doesn’t call her, she shows op at his concert but he ignores her a bit etc. I have to admit, he’s more of a bad boy towards women than a gentleman. But his game works.
April is getting a lot of attention from guys with private planes, lots of money, but she’s very attracted to Rick, a rockstar without a contract and not a lot of money. He plays it cool, doesn’t put her on a pedestal etc. She shows her interest by asking things like “what took you so long to call…?” etc.
And really, I think he wants to call her a lot, but he doesn’t. He behaves like a real man towards women. And it works. He’s got the babe.
I’ll keep you posted on this series, since I have a feeling I can learn a lot from it!